Are YOU the Victim of Business-Threatening Rumors?
© 1999, by Harmony Major
In the online business world or otherwise, people are going to
say things about you or your business in an attempt to knock you
for a loop, and destroy the credibility that you're working so
hard to build. Why? Maybe they like to get people down. Maybe
they have nothing better to do. Maybe the idea of other people's
success is threatening. It could be all or none of those.
Regardless of the reason, it's still going to affect you, and you
need to know how to handle yourself when the time comes. Oh yeah
... if you're successful, people ARE talking about you. You just
don't know it yet. So when you find out, here's how to cope:
1. Don't let it get you upset.
The first thing we want to do when we find out people have been
talking badly about us or our business is to get angry.
Why? This won't solve anything, so why get your blood pressure
up, increasing your health risk, over rumors? Stay calm and
collected, and be ready to perform these other steps.
2. Ask "the messenger" what their views are on the issue, and ask
for specific examples to back them up.
The messenger? The person that told you about the rumors. Whether
they agree or disagree, ask them why. If they don't agree and can
give you valid reasons why not, then you have little to worry
about. If they agree and can give reasons why, ARE they valid?
Can they provide supporting examples?
DON'T think about this from a self-defensive point of view. Be
open-minded about what they have to say. Acknowledge your
mistakes and REALIZE them, apologizing for any wrong-doing. What
a way to INSTANTLY prove that you're not "the bad guy!" Everyone
makes mistakes -- but very few people have the courage to admit
to those mistakes.
3. Remember, the odds are already against you. Be prepared for the worst.
Most people ARE closed-minded, no matter how much they disagree.
The messenger probably came into the relationship with you based
on some biases passed on from the rumor source. So, don't be
surprised when they give you supporting examples.
They've probably been LOOKING for things to support those rumors,
and were pretty much oblivious to the positive about you. Such
are the characteristics of closed-minded people. The sooner you
realize that, the better off you'll be.
4. Don't dig yourself deeper by getting defensive.
Doing this will only prove to the messenger that the rumors are
true! Don't get all uptight, don't be nasty, and don't accuse the
messenger of spreading the rumors. Remember, they only relayed
the message(s) to you from the source.
I know it's tempting to be self-defensive, but instead, relax.
Take a deep breath. If you got the "bad news" by e-mail, don't
respond right away. Come back to the message after several hours,
or even a day or two if need be. You'll have had time to cool
down, and will be able to respond with a level head.
5. BRIEFLY explain why the accusations couldn't be true, and
agree to disagree if necessary.
Don't be long-winded about this one, or you'll STILL come across
as being self-defensive. And as we all know, people that go out
of their way to prove themselves are guilty of the crime 99% of
the time -- or just insecure. You don't want to be portrayed as
either of those.
All in all, don't waste your valuable time defending yourself or
getting upset about rumors. The originators of these bad tales
have nothing better to do than to try to bring successful people
down instead of trying to achieve success themselves. They won't
hurt you as long as the rumors aren't true.
Although you CAN win a few "messengers" over and get them on your
side of the playing field, spend your time building your current
success -- not wasting energy and time defending yourself against
inevitable rumors. I guarantee you, you'll be MUCH better off.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Harmony Major is the author of Yahoo! Secrets, where she reveals
how YOU can drive HUNDREDS more visitors to your site each day,
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